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Asheville Forums, a new WNC networking website

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Asheville, NC – A new website called AshevilleForums.com has made its way onto the Internet. A new startup and joint venture between two friends, AshevilleForums aims to be a landing destination for tourists and locals alike. “It is a place where people can gather and communicate outside of regular mass marketed websites such as City Data,” the founders explain. “We wanted to create an authentic experience for both locals and tourists to discuss the area.”

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Nate Bargatze, Louis Katz in Asheville April 11 2-14

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Comedians Nate Bargatze (The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon, Comedy Central, Conan) and Louis Katz (NBC, Comedy Central, HBO) Perform as part of Funny Business at The Millroom’s Comedy Series

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Beer, Bites, and Bands in Historic Biltmore Village

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Restaurants and breweries in Historic Biltmore Village have come together to create a new and unique event. Two local breweries and 8 local restaurants have joined together to promote ”Beer, Bites, and Bands” to be held April 4 & 5 from 5:00 PM – 10:00 PM at the two brewery locations.

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Pink Dog Creative Pranked by Asheville Artist

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Using the digital magic of Photoshop, Asheville artist Brennan McElhany pays homage to the Pink Dog Creative of Asheville's River Arts District.

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Asheville Community Children’s Chorus Auditions

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The Asheville Community Children's Chorus will be holding auditions starting March 27 - April 6th in search of new members. The chorus is open to any/all children living in/around the Asheville community, who are ages 9-14, and have an interest in singing. The Asheville Community Children's Chorus puts on concerts of their own throughout the year and also provides many performance opportunities for its members around our community. 

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Dispelling the Love Myths Week 4: Feeling Love is Enough

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There are a million love songs. From Donna Summers I Feel Love to The Lion King’s Can you Feel the Love Tonight, they all remind us that when love is present, it is palpable. So I’m willing to agree that love is a feeling. The problem is love felt, but not expressed, is not enough. I wrote on Week One that we need to figure out how we want to be loved. If your partner loves you madly, but treats you badly, is that really love? This is where the fourth Principle of Loving comes in: Love is Good Will in Action. If you want to love someone more, do nice things for them, keeping in mind what they would like to receive from you.  If you want some one to love you more, allow them to do nice things for you.

A little counter intuitive, no? We think that the more we do for another, the more they will love us.  In reality, the kindest thing you can do for another is let them know how they can please you, and then be pleased by their good will in action. Jerry Jud talks about another facet of good will in action, which is that, to truly love, we have to come to grips with the fact that we are all good, and bad, dark and light.  He said, “I have to own my own darkness in order to live with your darkness.  But I also have to own my own light in order to live with your brilliant light.. . . If you are going to love somebody, you have to love the whole thing.”**

Victor Baranco said it another way, “Love is the willingness to see yourself through all of another person's viewpoints.”  And here’s the love myth.  That someone out there is the perfect person for us, in every way. Their bumps will fit our grooves, and we will live happily, lovingly ever after. We believe that true love sees us as we wish to see ourselves. Anyone who’s been in a relationship knows this isn’t true.  Our “soul mates” stick their thumbs in every sore spot we have. We are attracted to the people who have the things we lack, and then resent them for it. They mirror back  our shadows, and also call us to live into our highest selves.This can be very uncomfortable!

The next time you find yourself not liking someone very much, you can re-connect to your love for them by remembering that love is good will in action. More on what that might look like when we get the skills of loving.

What are your thoughts? Do these principles inform your relationships?
Next time: The last principle, Love is a response to need.

To read the prior posts, click below
Week OneWeek Two | Week Three

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Comedian Jarrod Harris at The Millroom Friday 3/14/14

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On Friday, March 14th, Asheville welcomes the uproariously funny stand-up Comedian Jarrod Harris in downtown Asheville for Funny Business at The Millroom’s comedy series for shows at 7:00pm and 9:30pm. Jarrod is the former writer for the hit web series ‘Action Figure Therapy,’ and also was the voice of “Jungle” on the series. 

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Learn to make Ukrainian Easter Eggs

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Studio A at Pink Dog Creative is pleased to announce pysanky classes in the River Arts District of Asheville, NC. In this workshop we will be making beautiful Ukrainian Easter eggs – pysanky.

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Dispelling the Love Myths 3: Love Takes Time

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If you are just tuning in, I’ve been writing for the last couple of days on the what I call The Love Myths.  These are so culturally ingrained, we don’t even realize that these beliefs are running our lives. If Love is  a choice we make, and NOT something we fall into, awareness of our underlying operating system is going to be a big help. Today’s principle Love is Not Time Bound, actually addresses a whole slew of myths. Do you believe any of the following?

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Asheville Small Plate Crawl Experience 2014

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Asheville is known for its great food, and especially for its local independent restaurants that feature a unique, eclectic variety of flavors that are far more sophisticated than may be expected in a small southern town.  What’s even more exciting than the food, perhaps, is that Asheville provides unique opportunities for locals and visitors to explore the culture and see what makes Asheville so special while having fun doing it.  The annual “small plate crawl” is one of those opportunities, and this year it did not disappoint.  Over 20 restaurants participated in this culinary tour, featuring special small-sized chef creations that highlight the essence of the restaurant and the Asheville food scene.

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