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Pink Dog Creative Pranked by Asheville Artist
Using the digital magic of Photoshop, Asheville artist Brennan McElhany pays homage to the Pink Dog Creative of Asheville's River Arts District.
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Asheville Community Children’s Chorus Auditions
The Asheville Community Children's Chorus will be holding auditions starting March 27 - April 6th in search of new members. The chorus is open to any/all children living in/around the Asheville community, who are ages 9-14, and have an interest in singing. The Asheville Community Children's Chorus puts on concerts of their own throughout the year and also provides many performance opportunities for its members around our community.
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Dispelling the Love Myths Week 4: Feeling Love is Enough
There are a million love songs. From Donna Summers I Feel Love to The Lion King’s Can you Feel the Love Tonight, they all remind us that when love is present, it is palpable. So I’m willing to agree that love is a feeling. The problem is love felt, but not expressed, is not enough. I wrote on Week One that we need to figure out how we want to be loved. If your partner loves you madly, but treats you badly, is that really love? This is where the fourth Principle of Loving comes in: Love is Good Will in Action. If you want to love someone more, do nice things for them, keeping in mind what they would like to receive from you. If you want some one to love you more, allow them to do nice things for you.
A little counter intuitive, no? We think that the more we do for another, the more they will love us. In reality, the kindest thing you can do for another is let them know how they can please you, and then be pleased by their good will in action. Jerry Jud talks about another facet of good will in action, which is that, to truly love, we have to come to grips with the fact that we are all good, and bad, dark and light. He said, “I have to own my own darkness in order to live with your darkness. But I also have to own my own light in order to live with your brilliant light.. . . If you are going to love somebody, you have to love the whole thing.”**
Victor Baranco said it another way, “Love is the willingness to see yourself through all of another person's viewpoints.” And here’s the love myth. That someone out there is the perfect person for us, in every way. Their bumps will fit our grooves, and we will live happily, lovingly ever after. We believe that true love sees us as we wish to see ourselves. Anyone who’s been in a relationship knows this isn’t true. Our “soul mates” stick their thumbs in every sore spot we have. We are attracted to the people who have the things we lack, and then resent them for it. They mirror back our shadows, and also call us to live into our highest selves.This can be very uncomfortable!
The next time you find yourself not liking someone very much, you can re-connect to your love for them by remembering that love is good will in action. More on what that might look like when we get the skills of loving.
What are your thoughts? Do these principles inform your relationships?
Next time: The last principle, Love is a response to need.
To read the prior posts, click below
Week One | Week Two | Week Three Read More »
A little counter intuitive, no? We think that the more we do for another, the more they will love us. In reality, the kindest thing you can do for another is let them know how they can please you, and then be pleased by their good will in action. Jerry Jud talks about another facet of good will in action, which is that, to truly love, we have to come to grips with the fact that we are all good, and bad, dark and light. He said, “I have to own my own darkness in order to live with your darkness. But I also have to own my own light in order to live with your brilliant light.. . . If you are going to love somebody, you have to love the whole thing.”**
Victor Baranco said it another way, “Love is the willingness to see yourself through all of another person's viewpoints.” And here’s the love myth. That someone out there is the perfect person for us, in every way. Their bumps will fit our grooves, and we will live happily, lovingly ever after. We believe that true love sees us as we wish to see ourselves. Anyone who’s been in a relationship knows this isn’t true. Our “soul mates” stick their thumbs in every sore spot we have. We are attracted to the people who have the things we lack, and then resent them for it. They mirror back our shadows, and also call us to live into our highest selves.This can be very uncomfortable!
The next time you find yourself not liking someone very much, you can re-connect to your love for them by remembering that love is good will in action. More on what that might look like when we get the skills of loving.
What are your thoughts? Do these principles inform your relationships?
Next time: The last principle, Love is a response to need.
To read the prior posts, click below
Week One | Week Two | Week Three Read More »
Comedian Jarrod Harris at The Millroom Friday 3/14/14
On Friday, March 14th, Asheville welcomes the uproariously funny stand-up Comedian Jarrod Harris in downtown Asheville for Funny Business at The Millroom’s comedy series for shows at 7:00pm and 9:30pm. Jarrod is the former writer for the hit web series ‘Action Figure Therapy,’ and also was the voice of “Jungle” on the series.
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Learn to make Ukrainian Easter Eggs
Studio A at Pink Dog Creative is pleased to announce pysanky classes in the River Arts District of Asheville, NC. In this workshop we will be making beautiful Ukrainian Easter eggs – pysanky.
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Dispelling the Love Myths 3: Love Takes Time
If you are just tuning in, I’ve been writing for the last couple of days on the what I call The Love Myths. These are so culturally ingrained, we don’t even realize that these beliefs are running our lives. If Love is a choice we make, and NOT something we fall into, awareness of our underlying operating system is going to be a big help. Today’s principle Love is Not Time Bound, actually addresses a whole slew of myths. Do you believe any of the following?
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Asheville Small Plate Crawl Experience 2014
Asheville is known for its great food, and especially for its local independent restaurants that feature a unique, eclectic variety of flavors that are far more sophisticated than may be expected in a small southern town. What’s even more exciting than the food, perhaps, is that Asheville provides unique opportunities for locals and visitors to explore the culture and see what makes Asheville so special while having fun doing it. The annual “small plate crawl” is one of those opportunities, and this year it did not disappoint. Over 20 restaurants participated in this culinary tour, featuring special small-sized chef creations that highlight the essence of the restaurant and the Asheville food scene.
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Who’s Bad Playing at the Orange Peel 2/28/14
10 Years In, Who's Bad Going Stronger Than Ever, Spreading Michael Jackson's Music and Spirit Around the World
In 2014, Who’s Bad marks their 10th year performing as The Ultimate Michael Jackson Tribute Band. In that span, Who’s Bad has played more shows in more cities worldwide than any other tribute act related to the King of Pop.
Their first show was exactly ten years ago today. What began as a humble college experiment by University of North Carolina alum, Vamsi Tadepalli, has grown to be something bigger and more symbolic than he ever dreamed it could: Read More »
In 2014, Who’s Bad marks their 10th year performing as The Ultimate Michael Jackson Tribute Band. In that span, Who’s Bad has played more shows in more cities worldwide than any other tribute act related to the King of Pop.
Their first show was exactly ten years ago today. What began as a humble college experiment by University of North Carolina alum, Vamsi Tadepalli, has grown to be something bigger and more symbolic than he ever dreamed it could: Read More »
Dispelling the Love Myths Week 2: Love is Expensive
I started this series to get people thinking about how much more love would be available if we practiced some simple principles and skills of loving. If you missed that post, you can read it here. Today’s myth? That Love is expensive. We believe it's something we earn. We have the idea that we must be good to be loveable. Often, we shy away from love, because the price tag looks too high. We have the idea that romantic love will require sacrifices of who we really are. And often it does. Who hasn’t kept themselves small, or kept their mouth shut, in order not to rock the boat? Who hasn’t withheld love when a lover, friend or child has failed to make the grade?
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30 Days of Yoga: Days 1-10
"I wish winter would stay forever and ever," said no one ever, so what do you do to beat the winter blues? Well, you could hibernate, drink lots of hot chocolate, go somewhere tropical or look for something uplifting and inspiring; I chose the latter. After seeing all the pictures puppies and purritos (please google purritos) my heart could handle, I turned to TED Talks.
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